People Suck
Personal interaction is simultaineously the bane of all existance and the fabric of it. No one can go through life without personal contact and feel as if their life is fulfilled, yet, we all strive for a painless life.
It is this conundrum that, in my mind, is as pressing and elusive as a definition of love.
Good people try to make the right decisions for various and sundry reasons, one of which is to save your friends from the hell of your wrong decisions. Now, the whole point of having friends is having someone who sticks by you when you do make bad decisions, and tries to help you make the right one next time.
Making the right decision is always hard, and that's a great way to know which decision to make. If it's hard, if it hurts, if you will be persecuted by those around you, then it's the right way, and honestly, the only thing you get from it is the knowledge that you did the right thing. You won't become famous, you won't be rewarded. You will be downtrodden and you will miss out on experiences.
Rest assured that by making the right choice, you experience all the pain now instead of later, and you will always wonder what would have happened, even if you have chosen the other way twenty times, this one could have been different.
The current choice I must make is whether or not to continue allowing someone to make the bad decision with me. I cannot stop them from making the bad decision, and I cannot guarantee that this person will ever make the right decision when it comes to this issue, but I can stop myself from being party to it.
Or, I can continue to reap the benefits of such a wrong decision, and merely rationalize that I am doing nothing wrong, all the blame goes on the other person.
Here's the thing. I wasn't doing anything wrong, but if I continue along the same path, I will be doing something wrong. I was clueless to the situation, I gave the person the benefit of the doubt, and assumed that this person had done the right thing.
Now that I know differently, I would be doing the wrong thing to continue.
It is this conundrum that, in my mind, is as pressing and elusive as a definition of love.
Good people try to make the right decisions for various and sundry reasons, one of which is to save your friends from the hell of your wrong decisions. Now, the whole point of having friends is having someone who sticks by you when you do make bad decisions, and tries to help you make the right one next time.
Making the right decision is always hard, and that's a great way to know which decision to make. If it's hard, if it hurts, if you will be persecuted by those around you, then it's the right way, and honestly, the only thing you get from it is the knowledge that you did the right thing. You won't become famous, you won't be rewarded. You will be downtrodden and you will miss out on experiences.
Rest assured that by making the right choice, you experience all the pain now instead of later, and you will always wonder what would have happened, even if you have chosen the other way twenty times, this one could have been different.
The current choice I must make is whether or not to continue allowing someone to make the bad decision with me. I cannot stop them from making the bad decision, and I cannot guarantee that this person will ever make the right decision when it comes to this issue, but I can stop myself from being party to it.
Or, I can continue to reap the benefits of such a wrong decision, and merely rationalize that I am doing nothing wrong, all the blame goes on the other person.
Here's the thing. I wasn't doing anything wrong, but if I continue along the same path, I will be doing something wrong. I was clueless to the situation, I gave the person the benefit of the doubt, and assumed that this person had done the right thing.
Now that I know differently, I would be doing the wrong thing to continue.
posted by Hadrian: Dark One at 8:10 AM
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